It’s enough trouble trying to get the right wording for wedding invitations when things are simple, but what about when your family has less traditional circumstances? These days so many engaged couples have a unique family situation to accommodate, and it’s never easy to ensure that everyone feels happy and included in your big day.
A lot of brides or grooms have divorced parents, or parents who have remarried, and sometimes we risk offending a family member if we word things improperly. Nowadays, it isn’t seen as bad form for the groom’s parents to chip in for the wedding expenses, and quite often some unique combination of parents, step-parents, and/or the engaged couple themselves end up shouldering the expenses. Even in untraditional circumstances, good form is important to let everyone know they’re appreciated.
You want to make sure everyone is comfortable, but don’t forget there are a few basic pieces of information that you need to include on any wedding invitation, such as the date and time of the wedding and reception, the full names of the bride and groom, and some form of R.S.V.P. information. Other than that, it’s perfectly acceptable to include anything you want on the invitation, so long as you stay within the confines of good social behaviour.
It is good form to list the names of any parents or step-parents who contributed to the wedding expenses, even if they are not sending the invitations. If you are concerned about how someone might feel or might react to your decision, discuss it with them if it is appropriate to do so. Every situation is different, but here are some guidelines about proper form.
- The name of the mother of the bride should come first if the bride’s parents are divorced, whether she has remarried or not.
- Divorced parents should be listed on separate lines, one after the other, without “and” connecting them.
- When the bride’s mother has not remarried, she should usually be listed as “Mrs.” followed by her first name, maiden name, and married name.
- Parents who have remarried should be listed as “Mr. And Mrs.”
Of course nobody says you have to be bound by traditional paper invitations to demonstrate proper etiquette. Digital Invitations from Real Invites allow you to connect with your guests on a much more personal level, and ensure that everyone feels fully included in your romantic journey. We help you find the exact right words, music and pictures, whatever your situation may be.