Big Day

Written By Darlene Lucas

Weddings are once in a lifetime experiences filled with wonderful memories and cherished moments. I so cherish those memories and still remember my wedding so vividly like it was yesterday, the wonderful memories of my husband helping me to plan our “Big Day”special wedding day. Unlike most men, my husband was particularly interested in the wedding plans, every little detail, every little task, every step of the way.

I just want to clarify it is the bride’s role, our rite of passage to plan our wedding, or at least the majority of the planning. After all it is not call the “bridal” industry for nothing!! Now I know times have changed and more men like to be involved and I do support giving them some tasks, smaller tasks, but really picking the wedding theme, honeymoon destination, banquet hall, designing the invitations, colors scheme, wedding cake and food menu…

Really!! What Do Men Know about planning a wedding!!!

Or at least that what I thought. You see at times it is hard for me to let others plan events of importance for me or even share in the planning process. And just a little insight into the situation I always thought I didn’t want a big wedding although my husband did. Now there are various ways to involve men in the planning that helps makes the process somewhat painless and less emotional charged. I thought I found ways to distract my husband’s interests in the planning by assigning small task like finding the best florist shop, not the flowers just a florist shop. Oops did I forget to mention not only did he find the best florist shop, but he found the perfect flowers, with the perfect colors that matched my wedding dress. Okay I know you are thinking after that “little”success I let go a little and handed over the reins of planning just a little bit more to him.

Nope, and I am sure that you women understand.  I had to make sure that the best man and ushers looked perfect on my “Big Day”. I know my fiancé had been hinting that he’d pick the tuxedos out on his own with the guys. And yes, I picked my dress out without him and he wasn’t allowed to see it. But I still needed tag alone just in case. I know what the men are thinking; he is a grown man and he surely doesn’t need my help. And guess what men you are right, absolutely right, not only did he pick the right style he got an amazing deal in the pricing – without ME!!

Today is the day, the “Big Day”, the day I have been planning for. The day my family, my husband to-be and all our friends have been waiting for. You see it took me 8 years to finally take that final step to marriage. I knew without a doubt that he was my best friend, my confidant and partner for life and the man I wanted to marry.

You see you don’t always know what you have until someone reminds you. When I said I have many cherished memories there is one that stands out, one that I will cherish forever. One of my sister approached me after the wedding in the reception hall and said to me, did you see what Steve wrote on Facebook today. To be  honest I had been so busy over the last little while I had not looked at any social media sites. However, my husband was counting down the days to our wedding and had posted each day a saying or thought on Facebbook for world to see.

On our “BIG DAY” he wrote:

20 years of Friendship

11 years of Romance

8 years of Promise

And today I marry my Best Friend!!

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